I agree with the others - avoid telling your parents if it is possible. Just tell them that H is away on a business trip or off ice fishing with his male friends. Sometimes parents can get in the way.
If things stay the way they are for awhile - then consider taking the "z" approach - that is what I did after The X dropped bomb #4.
Quote: There is no question that he knows what YOU want, detaching is about giving him the space, and maybe ending up with what YOU want but that is up to him.
You can only control your own actions, he is free to make his own decisions, as we all are.
I really like what Blue said. I always had problems with wanting to tell The X what I wanted - I am a wee bit on the impatient side - I need to know how things are right now. Not knowing or being in limbo is really hard for me!
Even with the X SSS GF, I gave him some space for about a week - but then I had to know what he was doing, why he was doing it and what it meant!
BTW: I am talking to SteveO about whether maybe he should consider DB'ing again. Would you mind stopping by his thread in Surviving the Big D and seeing if you see what I see... Most of us there are so much more focused on recovery that I think sometimes we miss the DB signs.
