See, NC really does work and they can't take their own medicine. My H does the same thing. I do NC and he goes on the pursuit. Try to do it more often, especially with the phone calls. I try not to call H too often, although there are some days like today that I think I contact a little more than I would like. Gosh, isn't this whole thing so maddening having to second guess everything that you do? It drives me insane at times. My H is inquiring a lot about "OM" as well. I do try not to give him details. I told him that we are friends getting to know each other. But still unsure if its the right thing to do. I guess like DR says, fixing one's marriage is a trial and error process. And if it doesn't work try something else. We'll see. Keep me posted and I will keep you posted.
