I do debate about telling my parents, they are 10 hours away, so H not here would not be a huge impact, at least in the beginning. I like your stance z. If it comes to the point where I tell them, I'll take that road. I don't lean on them for support for all the reasons you have all listed. I don't want them hurt, I don't want to hear them ask a million questions about why, questions I can't fully answer. My sister and girlfriend can handle all this, they will forgive H if he comes back, I don't know if my parents could fully do that, that is my fear. So I need to explain this to H. Plus, as my FF said, having my parents driving 10 hours home after hearing the news and being upset might not be a good thing!
