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Re: Advice Please...Con't #2 Bworl #1704219 01/28/09 04:54 PM
Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 11,646 J Jack_Three_Beans Moderator
Jack_Three_Beans Moderator J Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 11,646	uhh...what those three, Bworl, Trapt and Mach said, ditto. Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet

Re: Advice Please...Con't #2 Bworl #1704230 01/28/09 05:01 PM
Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 1,374 HEART OF THE REDWOODS C craig54 Member
craig54 Member C Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 1,374 HEART OF THE REDWOODS	Ral, Great advice, take it to heart. Put it into action. Note: Just a side note, I would not try to even kiss her , even a peck, unless she is the one who iniates it.That is pursing. m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023

Re: Advice Please...Con't #2 craig54 #1704235 01/28/09 05:08 PM
Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 5,992 S smith18 Member
smith18 Member S Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 5,992	Ral, one other thing I must warn you about is talking too much with friends and family. If they try to question or talk to her about it, that will only push her further away. And it can make her resentment towards you much worse because she will blame you for reaching out to friends and family to put pressure on her. Trust me on this one, I found out the hard way by contacting BIL/MIL and it backfired.

Re: Advice Please...Con't #2 smith18 #1704240 01/28/09 05:12 PM
Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 11,646 J Jack_Three_Beans Moderator
Jack_Three_Beans Moderator J Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 11,646	OH HELL yeah, listen to Kerry!! You are going to be tempted to talk to everyone close about your problems thinking they will help her see the light or force her too... Ral, that is one mistake I hope you avoid by listening to us. Right now pay attention Ral. Talking to others, friend, and family is a F-ing Mine that will blow up your house! It's a mine! It's a mine! Get that? Learn from last time. Don't do it. Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet

Re: Advice Please...Con't #2 Jack_Three_Beans #1704391 01/28/09 07:10 PM
Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 153 Midwest S StayHopeful OP Member
OP StayHopeful Member S Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 153 Midwest	Loud & Clear , that post was some observations thus far, No more sleeping on duty here. M-50 W-43 D-20 S-11 Together-17 Married-15 Bomb- 11-2-08 Previous post:http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1676630&page=3#Post1676630

Re: Advice Please...Con't #2 StayHopeful #1704485 01/28/09 08:12 PM
Joined: Jun 2005 Posts: 4,986 W WCW Member
WCW Member W Joined: Jun 2005 Posts: 4,986	I am not suggesting you give her a list of things and say this might be what is wrong and work on this to fix your innards and that will make all our problems go away. I am saying she could be experiencing some very real physical and emotional issues pertaining to 'female stuff' that you are putting under the MLC umbrella. Hormones can be treated. There is no prescription to fix MLC. Also FWIW IMO, a 180 of pecking her on the cheek is not a good 180. Having her coffee ready for her is. Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.

Re: Advice Please...Con't #2 WCW #1704659 01/28/09 11:07 PM
Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 153 Midwest S StayHopeful OP Member
OP StayHopeful Member S Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 153 Midwest	Thanks WCW, I could have mentioned it but, I don't think she would listen too intently. I'll look at the 180 again. I've been trying to find some that would be positive... M-50 W-43 D-20 S-11 Together-17 Married-15 Bomb- 11-2-08 Previous post:http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1676630&page=3#Post1676630

Re: Advice Please...Con't #2 StayHopeful #1707398 02/02/09 12:26 AM
Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 153 Midwest S StayHopeful OP Member
OP StayHopeful Member S Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 153 Midwest	Just checking in. Not much different here. Doing my best to keep occupied. Hope you all are well. All my best to you...R M-50 W-43 D-20 S-11 Together-17 Married-15 Bomb- 11-2-08 Previous post:http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1676630&page=3#Post1676630

Re: Advice Please...Con't #2 StayHopeful #1707474 02/02/09 03:35 AM
Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 1,374 HEART OF THE REDWOODS C craig54 Member
craig54 Member C Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 1,374 HEART OF THE REDWOODS	Nicely done . m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023

Re: Advice Please...Con't #2 craig54 #1707512 02/02/09 04:48 AM
Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 153 Midwest S StayHopeful OP Member
OP StayHopeful Member S Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 153 Midwest	Hi Craig, I feel like I'll be changing forums as well. I don't know how much longer this can go on. I guess we'll see... M-50 W-43 D-20 S-11 Together-17 Married-15 Bomb- 11-2-08 Previous post:http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1676630&page=3#Post1676630

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