Today's argument was about doing "the little things" for your partner.
I usually do a lot of little things for him: When he calls and asks me to drop something off for him at work. Hey, I think my favorite band just released an album I had no idea about, can you go pick it up for me at 9PM on a Sunday night 'cause I can't leave where I am? Can you rub lotion on my feet, they're dry and they hurt?
Tons of little things I don't necessarily HAVE to do, but I do anyway because I know they please him and help him out. I asked him to do one freaking thing for me today and he refuses and says he doesn't feel like it.
Upon going, "Hey, that's cool - but seriously, I'm sort of miffed I do so much for you and you won't go out of your way this once for me", he says he helps me all the time.
For instance: the time I got into a car accident and he came and picked me up.
Seriously? That was optional? Your girlfiend's car has been hit, her front fender is punched in and she can't drive it. That's sort of something you're required to do by nature of "Oh, crap, my love one's been in an emergency situation! Are you okay? I'll be right there!"
What I'M talking about are little things you don't HAVE to do. Things that you really don't WANT to do and you really don't HAVE to do, but you do them anyway to make someone happy.
Like stopping what I'm doing to scratch your back "really good" because you like the way it feels. Like making sure I buy those nasty cheese filled hot dogs when I go grocery shopping, because I know you like them for lunch. Like making a special trip out to pick up a gallon milk because he's the only one that drinks it and likes it in his cereal in the morning.
Still, he contents that I obviously don't remember the stuff he does for me, because he didn't have to help me out with my car.
Am I the -only- one that understands what I'm saying? Am I speaking Swahili? Does this not make sense to you guys? Am I WRONG?
I'm sort of at the end of my rope with this selfish stuff.
About two seconds after this argument was declared a stalemate, I put the bills that were sitting on the coffee table on his desk in the computer room - he physically pays the bills, but we split the funds down the middle.
He proceeded to sweep everything (literally) off the desk and throw it on the floor because he "hates it" when I put things on his desk.
I'm just...I'm not sure what to do anymore. I'm not sure how to fix this anymore. I'm not sure if it's worth it.
Bomb Dropped - 11/08 Working on the R - 12/08 (thankfully short period of time!) Still DBing to see positive changes!
