My S is here and we are having a blast. W was out of town past several days with OM. Strangely that didn't bother me as much as I thought. Detaching does work wonder...!!! I think I did something on Friday night that is against DBing guideline. I brought up the R talk with W.
I was telling her that S is doing better here and he seems to be happier with me. I also told her that I can provide him a more stable environment to grow up. Surprisingly she actually agrees with me. One thing lead to another, we are talking about our R/M. I even told her ILYBNILWY which is true. Isn't this crazy? She told me this just several months ago. I told her that I got it now. I have to let her go. I told her that I know she is in a tough/lost place in her life. I understand that she needs time to sort things out. I even told her that we all make mistakes in life, but I will not let my mistakes define who I am and so as she. I think she feels relief. Since she agrees S is better staying with me, I even suggest to her that she can come back and stay while she is sorting out her issues/problems. She said she may do this, but who knows. It doesn't matter anyway. If she decides to come back, I will just treat her as a housemate. I just want to give her a chance to find herself again.
Not sure what's going to happen next, but the good thing is my S is staying with me because I am the better parent at this very moment. I am pretty sure W will come around and be equal or better suited parent later.
Another random and long post.....oh well.
Stay busy and focus on myself and S.....
NW626
Me:33 STBXW:38 S:3 It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you fight the fight....!!
