Hi, just found this thread and I have questions of my own. It is hard for me to figure out what is working and what 180's to do or not to do. I feel I have tried all and while I see difference H's reaction isn't consistent. H has changed a lot but reverts back minutes, hours, or a day later. Ex. we have argued weekly for 11/2 years over the same issue -while I have tried different responses to prevent the arguments with little change. He recently realised that we argue mostly about the same topic and suggested that we not talk about the topic to have quieter encounters. When he brings it up - i given reminders that it is off limits - he agrees and then continues. IT basically doesn't stop for anything. Could it mean that he really can't work through the issue no matter how hard he tries? Are there really deal breakers in M? I get the sense that he wants to be with me and work this through but it really goes against him.
