To my knowledge, I have heard everyone is different when and if they come out of the fog... Some say it takes a while to come out as well. If I argue with the W, she likes to accuse me of yelling so, I have to really be aware of my volume. I wish I could help you more with your sitch but, I'm too new to DB'ing. My W has shut me down to only conversation, she shows no response to anything. (I did get a Thanks the other day for doing some wash) She seems to be angry inside and won't let on to anything she is feeling...(She wants to keep me guessing) Sounds as though your H is riding a Roller Coaster. For what it's worth, most of the people here say to "Take Care of YOU" and let THEM work out THEIR problems... I can't understand how we can go from a "loving spouse" to someone who doesn't deserve their affection... Best of Luck, No, Best of "Life" to you. I'm tired of Luck... R
