I have read both the Sex Starved Marriage and Divorce Busting. The Sex Starved Marriage book helped me SO MUCH to realize it's not me. When this began I twisted myself inside out trying to figure out what the problem was. You see, another problem with my H is he is a very passive aggressive man. I believe he initially was punishing me for having our third child by withholding sex. I've come to see over the past few months that I have been the ever willing, ever loving wife of a man who was covertly abusing me both emotionally and sexually. We have now a touchless marriage - except that one night a year we ML. No kisses, no hugs no nothing unless I initiate. I did not believe in divorce but now I have a reason to get a divorce - adultery.
I've come to think I don't really want to save this marriage. My biggest concern is my kids.
