I think that's true of a lot of our WAS. If we don't agree to what we want or we bring some reality to the table, we are seen as being horrible. But we all know that's not true.
Your W and my H have threatened legal and custody stuff, but that doesn't mean it will happen. My H was trying for primary custody, but I don't really even think he wants it, or will get it. Lots of bluster, but doesn't mean anything to the judge. In our state at least, most of child custody and everything seems to be all arranged according to formulas, and you will have your fair share of custody basically unless you beat your child and/or really unfit (I've been told).
I think you are focusing too much on your W and MIL, and not on you and your boys. Let your L take care of the legal stuff, and if she's not then get another L! Let God take care of your other worries. I had gotten so busy I hadn't read the bible in a week or 2, and am returning to reading it daily and it brings so much peace to me. Exercise helps me. And I still take ADs and plan to at least through the D and maybe a little after. I put a little time each week or try to for me to have some fun. They just opened a new coffee shop in town, my small town finally has our own overpriced coffee!!! But I'm psyched to go there and visit and bring a book and want to try to do that maybe once a week. Do lots of fun stuff with your kids.
I do think you are kind of in a similar sitch to mine where things will get much better for you in time. (((((NC))))))
