I believe there is no escape from these situations. We have to be patient and let them play themselves out.
It seems like I have only a few options.
1) I can declare war and say I want a D. It would be quite ugly as we fight over property and money. I would have to tolerate great unpleasantness. I don't think that's what she wants.
2) I can become resentful about her behavior and create a toxic R between us.
3) I can practice goodwill, compassion, joy, and openness with a person I'm in R with, keep working on solving problems until the day we D, and accept whatever direction the R goes.
I think the M will either heal based on my influence or die no matter what I do. I don't think this will go on indefinitely.
Thanks for the hug, and sharing my disappointment and frustration.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
