Jackie....do you really want to say all those things to him? Or is the anger and hurt so much that you can't think of anything else but to hurt him back? I know it is hard...but you have to start forgiving.....yourself first.....he say IF..that is a good sign...look for the good things..as far as relatives....don't tell too much that you might regret....your problems are between the two of you and no one else needs to know all the nitty gritty, they will make it all up anyways if they want to. I guess I can't see it as him running away..just an honest approach to trying to find out what he needs........is it fair that they leave us with the home and kids and all that junk..no...but we have to try and continue on with our lives and work on all the junk with ourselves that contributed to part of the mess.
