It sounds like your H really had a major burr under his saddle. I sense that he was majorly upset with the situation he found when you two arrived to find your DD with her male friend. That it was something he was finding discomforting because it represented something he was losing control of. I've seen it in my W, the control-freak, angry at seeing how the consequences of their own actions have lead to them losing yet more -- rather than gaining -- control over the things they value in their life.
It disconcerted him and proved to him out of touch he has been.
But I also can sense that he had expected the end of the evening together with you to have gone a lot more pleasantly, and this just ruined his expectations.
