Snodderly I spoke to the HR department and they said they hadn't received anything. The lady I spoke to even took the time to ring a colleague based in a different building (the organisation used to be two different ones) and they too didn't know anything about it. I've asked for a duplicate letter to be sent out. I'm not worried about this happening as it gives me a bit more breathing space in terms of having to pay out double the mortgage payments I currently make but I'm sure H will think that I am stalling so that he gets his money later than he wanted. This also does not bother me. The one thing that does bother me is all the telephone calls to my solicitor that cost more and more money.
I just want an end to all of this now. H and I were always in debt when we were together. I have broken free of that on my own but the mounting costs to the solicitor feel like H is drawing me back into his world of spend spend spend (even if you haven't got it) and that annoys me.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
