S, We always emphasize the no relationship talk conversations and that includes the ow. You will never get a right answer from him and most likely the answers will hurt you more than you ever imagined. It's important to keep your conversations on business and or child related questions and not on the relationship.
In your h's eyes, you are the authority figure (MOM). He doesn't want that right now because he's slipped back into the teenager who was emotionally stunted a long time ago. He wants to someone who is fun, no responsibility and will not question his every word or move. Right now, you are MOM. Right now, you are a reminder of the life he's running from. What do you do? Leave him alone...live your life and allow him to come to you.
Read the MLC Resource Threads and the Archived MLC Threads. Educate yourself on mlc and depression. This information will help you better understand why you cannot talk about the relationship, the ow. Those threads will enlighten you in ways you never knew because your h is a case book example of mlc and running away from reality.
BTW, N2M has told you exactly what is going on.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
