True, In time, you will know the type of man you would like for a companion once again. You are in the "test drive" mode right now and don't be in too big of a hurry to settle for just anyone. I think you did the right thing with the parting of the ways. I don't think he was the right one for you.
As for h, good for you. Sometimes we have to just tell them like it is. He's been pushing your buttons for a long time and you've been a very nice lady about it all. I think it may have rocked him a bit to find out that you weren't taking his crap any longer.
Please drive safely and enjoy your time w/your friend.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
