Hi JCJ, I totally agree with you. All good and valid points. At this stage and especially in light of the FB status, I say protect yourself at every turn. I think I have said that all along. Too many of us have suffered financial hardship because we mistakenly thought that by being meak and generous that "they" would see the love we still had for them and the determination to stand for our marriage. In most if not all cases we merely helped support their new lifestyle and new partner. Asking for and fighting if needs be, for what the law allows is not being mercenary or greedy. You need feel no guilt or martydom. Value your worth and all that you have invested in this marriage. You can lay down and let him walk all over you and still have no guarentee the outcome will be that your marriage is restored. Remember this was his choice,yes you played your part as we all did or have done. It is hard enough being lonely you may as well do it in as much comfort as the law allows. Set your boundaries for your own mental well being. Someone has a sig. line that says "if you don't want to be a doormat get up of the floor". I don't think you are on the floor by any means but sometimes inthe DB process we suffer in silence for fear of affecting the eventual outcome. Sorry you had to read that on FB. He certainly isn't giving you much thought or anything to hold on to is he.
