Thanks M. It sounds great that you have a plan. That is what i mean when i say that giving up is working for me. It is not about getting H back anymore it is all about thinking ahead for me and my kids.
It is great that you have a destination to aim for. Yes do it for you. i also have plans and they seem so huge at the moment but one step at a time and i know i will get there.
i will check your thread as well.
And your right about control. I think i was a control freak before but that has been my big learning curve here and I no longer have to be involved or know anything. I just deal with what is important to me. Funny thing is , it is quite nice sitting back and letting other people do things and organise things. Learning this lesson has been hard but there is no way I can control H or anything he does, so i had to accept and let it all go. Freeing really.
