A year later, facing myself... #54

[addie]

Hi Kalni,
I've been following along although I haven't been posting.

I agree! I read that and thught.. hang on, make the effort to do a surprise, every day?? Thats a complete reverse of what they said last week! Yuo sure these guys know what they are doing! What with the comment about the OP (which I think we all agree is not on.. the mature thing to do would be to TALK about it, say, hey, I am feeling ignored/trapped/fancy a woman at work, what can we do to sort this problem out? or, go for IC, but NOT just lie to your W, betray her and have an A! Theres no excuse for that.

I thought the very same thing. The MCs are now asking you to do the very opposite of what they told you and H to do last week although I do like their suggestion of making the effort to do a surprise every day. Maybe they have a reason for doing things this way.

YIKES!!! The comment about a spouse having the right to find OP if he/she is not happy is really troubling. Good for you for voicing your opinion on that one.