and if it doesn't work....?? oh well...(sigh) oh, wait, Now I feel better!
( j )
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Thats a pretty good theory there. I'd like to see that one enacted.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Well, H brought D4 back early so that he could study. He is studying for Master this week. At first I wanted to say no, because I knew he was going to do this, but why should she have to put up with him being mad if I said no?? So I took her back early of course. Didn't have anything planned anyway, so it's not as if it's a huge thang.
Ya'll are going to yell at me. I did sit down and talk to him a little bit today. Not about R for the most part, but just about life. I listened to him. I didn't complain to him. He wanted a half-hug on the way out the door and I gave it to him. He stayed for about 20 minutes. It was nice to talk. I like talking to him! I just hate talking to him when he's got that wench there and it makes me feel bad. Maybe he feels bad, because he knows how it looks. Maybe he feels stuck because he offered her this for two weeks, and what else can he do?? BUT IF IT WERE ME, the wench woulda been outta my house. I wouldn't have let someone move in with me that soon after having problems with my W. Boundaries. Neither of us has 'em.
So then he texted me and said thanks for talking. I said it's just hard. The stitch is hard. He said sorry that he is the cause of so much pain ("poor pity me"). I told him he wasn't the cause, the stitch was the cause. Asked him about counseling tomorrow. He said he is still going. I thought we were both going, but he wants to go alone, and honestly, I think that is better. He won't feel ganged up on. And he can work through some stuff with her, before we have to face each other. I think he'll feel more comfortable that way and that's what I want. So I told him I would give him the appointment and he appreciated that.
So that was about it. Hmm...back to my cycle picture. This is him being nice. So next comes me being hurt (in theory)....so I'm going to wait for that.
Mel
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
You will all be happy to know that I did NOT get my Christmas tree down today. It should make you happy because you are still not the last person in America with it up!!
But!!! I went shopping at Marshall's yesterday. And they had Easter stuff. I'm usually not a big Easter decorator, but with just me and D4, I want that for us. So YES, ladies and gentleman, I now have Easter and Christmas stuff out AT THE SAME TIME. What can I say??
Now, with my personality being what it is, NONE of you should feel guilty about still having Christmas stuff out because I AM willing to take on ALL the guilt because i am worse because I have two seasons out instead of one.....lmao.
Hey. If I am gonna be this way, I'm gonna dang sure be able to get my own laughs out of my own stupid self.
Who won the Superbowl?
Mel
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
Steelers won the superbowl. I was hoping the Cardinals would win.
Sounds like you are finding fun things you enjoy to keep you occupied. And it makes it fun for your D4.
You sound like you are getting healthier.
Good deal.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Obviously I have to check when Orthodox Easter is...
PS, why say "the sitch" hurts as if it's independent of H? Just curious. And I don't think listening to him like a friend, is a bad thing, if you can handle it. You do want to contrast with ow and his idiotic living arrangement.
But please don't get sucked into the whole crazy "don't know how to get rid of a non-paying tenant who you know is some form of OW"...come on. Did you take HIS crazy pills?
((( j )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
True, I don't mind listening to him as a friend. But then at some point when I am doing that, something happens to get OW drug into the stitch. Whether it's WalMart, or the kids, or whatever, and then I end up hurt. Which is why I just haven't been talking to him at all. Besides, let him see what life is like without me! Because he desperately doesn't want that either. So, I haven't been talking to him at all hardly except when I have to in order to avoid exposing myself to any OW talk. As a result I haven't listened like a friend at all. I can handle anything except having to deal with her. Ugh.
Mel
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
My patience...of which I have none....is becoming a PITA.
He had the appt at 10am. It is now 2:15. He has not called or texted or anything else. I must admit I did not share a lot with him from my own appointments. I wanted him to be open to what she had to say, and maybe I didn't think he would be, if he heard it from me.
So, I know it's bad, but I am dying to know what he told her, what she told him, and how either of them feel about the stitch. I was hoping to feel more resolved today and now I don't. I feel okay. I'm sure she validated his pain, and that's good. I don't want him to feel like he has to just brush it off and pick up, cause that's not it. But I do think he has to get off the fence. I'm also sure she talked to him about boundaries and about the OW (....something Wench...there has to be a great awful word that starts with O....) and hopefully he understands how wrong that stitch is, how much it hurts, etc.
Of course she (the C) won't tell me, and that's fine. And I don't expect to get a lot of answers from him...but dang...at least a little piddly ole bone or something tossed my way would be great.
Dang. Impatience is a PITA. Put my James Avery ladybug ring on cause my hands feel so naked without my wedding rings. Well, guess I'll wait and see. Maybe she told him to write a letter. Great. Do ya'll know how long it took me to write that dang letter??? It took one night and I didn't even get it all said. I'm not sure if I had a year I could get it all said. But it took me 2 months of C to finally write that dumb letter. It's not dumb. I don't think he's even read it yet. He hadn't as of last night.
Funny man. Lord, I could a use a bucket 'o' patience right now!! I won't stoop to asking. I would die first!! But still!
Love ya'll.
Mel
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
