I really don't have any advice for you. It is admirable that some families are able to do that, but I wonder how confusing it is for the kids. Or, for me, it is all so fresh, that I have already been confused (twice!) and let down (twice!), so the only thing I can do for me is walk away. Completely, except for the kids.
I hear your pain. I wish I could do something for you. I hate that we are all here. I hate that we can't forgive and be forgiven. I hate that some of us are able to move forward while others are stuck in quicksand. I hate that some of our spouses are willing to do anything to get us back and others are happy to crucify us on whichever cross is closest. I hate all of it.
But I only have control over me. And you only have control over you. So, I am looking at making me happy. What would make me the most happiest person on earth right now, is Fairhope, Alabama. I don't know anyone there. But I love that town. I love Point Clear. I don't care anymore about the stupid hurricanes. I want to be there. So I am going to start looking at a way to get there. It will finally be what I want instead of what everyone else wants. That is a freeing thought.
Good luck. I will keep checking in on you.
Mel
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
