Sounds like you have a very responsible and mature S20!!! This is an emotional time for you, no doubt.

I get the feeling that your h grew up in a home where it was not okay to show/express true feelings, that he had to hide them away.

Tell me if I am way off here but I think maybe that is why he gets on you at times.

The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19