It has been a while since i posted. That is because I do not have anything worthy yo report. No success story here.
H seems very resolved in his decision and so i am forced to accept it. I hate the thought of OW and no doubt always will.
You cant spend 30 years with someone and not constantly look back at everything you have shared. What has changed in me is that i don't so much look forward at what we are going to miss. I accept that he chooses not to share the future so I look at everything ahead of me as being about just me. That was not an easy thing to do. but it sure helps the healing.
Time does bring clarity and I personally feel 100% better than i did months ago and I hope that newcomers make take that as my success story. I did everything wrong when H decided to take up with his new friend. Needy, whiny etc. That did not work. Then I tried Dbing , maybe not so well and that did not work. So I gave up and I think that may be working for me.
I am a great believer in never say never but i also know that time does not stand still for any man.
I wished H had found this site rather than me as I think he would of got a lot of support from other men who have been in his situation. So many good people out there with such similar stories. Anyway that is just another wish that cant happen.
