Quoting Dagny: I am trying to prepare myself for Sunday when he says that he needs more time and needs to leave for "good". I know it isn't hopeless, I have seen some of the success stories here. I'm climbing up from the emotional hole I was in a few days ago.
Great Jackie, that is the best mindframe. Who knows what he is going to do? I had absolutely prepared for my H to ask for a D when we first separated, and he came back ready to try again.
Quoting Dagny:This isn't going to turn around overnight. He needs to figure this out. I worked on correcting problems A, B, C, etc. that we identified back in November, but without his help, I just can't go any further in fixing our problems. He needs to fix his and I need to build a life for my own. And, I just can't be perfect. I can't be the perfect housekeeper and the stress of trying to do it was killing me and making me resentful.
You are so right: you cannot change in a way you do not want to change. You should not turn yourself into a person you do not want to be. Be who you want to be, and he will realize things sooner or later.
Quoting Dagny: I'm not going to bring up anything on Sunday. I will be happy to see him and leave it at that.
So absolutely right. Way to go girl!
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
