Playhouse

[Yoyowife]

Hi Everyone,
I had to dust the cobwebs off of my thread. LOL

I need some input/advice on last night.

H and I attended a surprise 50th birthday party at a local restaurant of a friend. We had a very nice time and lots of laughs with friends.

When we got back to my house there was a truck parked in the garage in my place. I didn't recognize the truck and told H that I didn't. One of DD's friends had gotten a new truck,he had not been here in a while He was with two other of her friends. We walked in and they were playing Wii. H starts grumbling to them about being there. I asked the friend when he got the truck. He said,"I'm sorry I'm parked in your place, I'll move." I said, "That's okay, I'll move my car when you leave." The friends said they wanted to see my new car. They were going on how nice and fancy it was. DD said, "Give me your keys and we'll move your car." H and I walked out as DD and her friend were pulling it in the garage, the friend was driving. H started complaining that he was driving the car. Geez, the car was drive about 20 feet at the most. The boy got out of the car and was talking about how nice it was. I started telling him about the bells and whistles. I said it even has a power liftgate, try it out. Unfortunately, the liftgate hit the top of the garage, but it was so slowly so there was no force. H said,"Well, that was ignorant." All of DD's friend heard it. I could tell by the look on her face she was mortified. I told H, it was my fault.

The kids decided to leave. DD told me later it was because of that incident.

H kept complaining about the boy driving the car and the other stuff. He said why didn't DD drive it. I said it's a lot bigger than her car and I'm sure she was afraid she might not get it in there straight. He then said, "Who was that boy?" I said the boy she went to prom with last year and they hung out all the time last year. The boy has now graduated. It's pretty sad he doesn't know much about her friends.

Finally, I took all I could and told H, "No one can do anything to please you, me included." He said, "What does that mean?" I said "I have tried and tried to make things right between us and you always find fault with me." He said, "Why did we go to the party tonight then? I had a great time with you."

He then went on about how the house was never spotless enough for him. I said the house is clean. He said, "Yes, but not spotless." I said the only ones I know that work fulltime and have a spotless house are the ones that hire someone. I said right now I can't afford that.

He started in on the girls' dogs. I told him that if they had to get rid of them they would be devastated. I told him that those dogs filled a big void in their lives when he left us. He didn't say much after that.

I said we are married and we don't act like it. Married people don't live apart for two years. I said I love you, but I don't want to do this anymore. I said either we work this out or we get a divorce. He asked me what I wanted. I told him I wanted my marriage, but I couldn't make him want it. I told him that he told me at the beginning of this mess that he wanted to be happy too. I said if I can't make you happy then we needed to get some closure. He said you just want to take my business, you can have it. I said no, but we will spit everything evenly.

He then reached over and hugged me and tried to initiate. I didn't respond. He let go and got up and left.

By the way he told me he no longer sees the OW outside work. I said how could I know that? He said ask our DD and she will tell you home I work and come home. I said I dont' ask her because I try not involve her. I said as long as the OW works for you I'll never fully feel comfortable that it is over.

So what now?