In the whole grand scheme of things, your w has a free will and it won't matter if you back off or not, she will still do as she pleases.

I don't think it allows her the freedom, since if she wanted to go skiing she would regardless of how you felt.

The best you can do is not answer your phone, besides you have a busy life too that doesn't include her fully right now. She will need to reflect on her poor behavior at some point. She can't see that right now, nor is she ready to face it.

Remember, don't answer her calls and when she comes home you are busy but friendly. Something like w I am glad you are home, did you have a good time. When she says yes you just say good. Then you say hey I have some plans I will be home later. You see then you can leave and scream and yell all you want without her even knowing.

Good luck! Keep us posted!


Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

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