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[Punktmann]

Greg, I'm so sorry to hear that things have gone this way.

I know that you are in an absolute sh17-storm right now, everything must seem upside down.

You are obviously a strong man, and a better than strong dad. It's clear to all of us that you aren't the 2 weekends a month type of father, so take what I say in that light.

When things fall apart, it's time to look to what matters.

Your kids matter.

Nothing else does. NOTHING!


Right now, I want to remind you of things you already know, but that you need to keep in the forefront of your mind.

Maybe you could look at it as an affirmation of your priorities when folks outside this board question your decisions.

Protecting your children is absolutely the most important thing right now.

I'm totally not suggesting that she's a bad mom, but they are taking a back seat to the situation that her MLC alien is driving towards. Most importantly, it's common for a man to lose custody to a woman in this situation, (in America.)

Every state is different in what details matter for custody, and what form custody takes.

Anyway, a judge won't see those things that make your home better for the kids, usually they just give mom custody and dad gets the scraps, 2 weekends a month. That's not what the kids need in this situation.


So, DON'T MOVE OUT. DON'T give up on staying the base of the "family" until she leaves or files for D. DON'T leave the marriage bed.

DON'T give up until the divorce decree is signed!

After that, it's about recovery, but stay STRONG for your kids until it's over.

I know I don't have to tell you to journal EVERYTHING, and go back for the past few years and put your journals in order for the hearings.

Depending on the state, infidelity, etc. may or may not matter, but in each state, remember that you go before a single judge, an individual person. All of the MLC behavior that you have documented here and in your journals can be looked at, and while the standard for that state may be XYZ, each judge DOES have the authority to do what they think is best for the kids based on what they know. Your journals may play a big enough part to overcome the "standard."

Stay strong for your kids, you are absolutely the roots for their healthy growth.

You must weather the storm for them.

Best,

Punkt.