I know she is hurt. Just so you know we are both seeing the same Christian Psychologist for IC. We haven't begun MC at this point with him as I don't think she is ready. So that is happening.
The type A analysis is a good observation I will think through that. My priorities have been out of whack throughout our marriage. I am making huge changes on that front. I don't think I ever appointed myself judge and jury over her. But, maybe subconsciously its coming out in my words. Yet another area for growth if it is true.
The working part has a lot to do with her EA. she didn't have much left to put into that area. She has worked throughout marriage, except for a 3 year stretch when I was earning big$ and she wanted to spend time at home with the kids. I was all for it. things have changed and we need her to help with some income now. She knows this and is trying. Alot of my earlier posts were probably filled with frustration during the time immediately preceding and after finding out about the affair. I was a bit of a basket case.
Good point on her heart and trust and how I let her down, shook the foundation of everything she thought she could rely on.
I am feeling your own pain in your words on my sitch. i hope you get all of what you desire in your marriage. Thank you for sharing your insight on mine with me. The female brain can be somewhat mysterious to me at times...
I feel like we will be a success story at some point. There is a lot of healing that has to happen for that though. I see that now. But at least, for now, it appears she is shutting down the emotional pipeline out of our marriage. Which will allow her to focus on herself and hopefully in time on US again. I need to do the same. i need to become a better man and get ready to be the husband she has always deserved.
Take care and come back and chat here..
Jeff
***Getting up every day and learning to breathe in a new me. For me and my children***
Me: 43 W: 38 SD-15 S(s): 12,9,7 Separated-2/14/2009 My sitch
