I can only surmise that W has built up such a huge facade of lies and self-deception -- of the WAS-type delusional variety that we all have had to endure -- that she has managed to convince her L, her family, friends, neighbors and caregivers for our children of this insane fantasy. If I don't submit to W's terms for unconditional surrender, I am somehow this horrible evil person for standing in the way of her "happiness" -- in fact, in her mind, that makes me into this abusive, psychologically-torturous monster who deserves her continual acts of betrayal, alienation and deceit. All because I don't surrender complete control over to her megalomania.
I can sense the storm clouds of this insanity brewing -- they want to stick it to me in every way possible, to nullify my fatherhood but still bind me monetarily to their decisions regarding my S's lives and well-being. I am still to be obligated to serving as W's meal-ticket and pack animal, but to have no custody and have no say in the matters effecting me or my S's. To remove my ability to parent my children whilst still gouging me for both child support and alimony can only be described as slavery. There is no other word for it.
I am also 100% certain that the evil MIL has put in her two cents -- even to point of being willing to purger herself in testifying against me, if it comes to that. If it goes to trial, I can bank on it. Why a judge would give any credence to the the testimony of such a untrustworthy person with a vested interest monetary at that) in screwing me over, I don't know. But they will lie, cheat and steal -- they have proven that already.
My L has said nothing directly to me about these matters as yet. Until she does I worry that she has "blinked" at the degree of W's resolve.
Sadly, the system is most definitely stacked against fathers like myself. And I guess I should not be surprised. I just have to persist despite this... for the sake of my children.
