I agree with BND on some aspects about the opinions, everyone has their own opinions and Frank is a big boy and can pick and choose which opinions he agrees with and what works for him.
I think it is great that everyone is doing what they can for Frank and trying to help him but when it comes down to it FRANK is the only one who can decide what he IS going to do.
When I first came to the boards, I got lots of different opinions and got very confused on what to do. One person says give up, another says hang in there, etc.... I freaked out and left the boards. For me, that was a good thing...for Frank he needs the boards. I see so many people doing their bests to help.
Everyone is at a different stage in their own situations and the opinions and advice they give is good. Frank just has to figure out where he stands and which advice is good for whatever he is going through at the time. I have not read one thing on here that has been negative though. The only negativity I read is from Frank himself at times.
Frank, to get through the day you must be positive. Don't sit and worry about what is going to happen next. Don't avoid your wife, it will just cause more friction and send mixed signals. Be yourself!!!!
I don't mean to be so blunt on this but sometimes I read the posts and it seems he is really asking for help and other times I feel he is just bored and wants to talk.
Sitting back and looking at what I have gone through, I wish I had stepped up off the curb and done something sooner. Don't sit back and wait for your life to become what you want it to be, YOU need to step up and MAKE your life what you want.
I hope no one takes any of this post the wrong way. I am always afraid of saying anything because I don't want people to think I am bitter from my own situation. I'm not, I just want to be honest and not sugar coat things. I think the sugar coating is what kept my mind from functioning right.
Frank, you need to make a game plan and stick to it.
