Waiting for the Happily Ever After Part

[rjd5974]

Jackie,
I'm glad you're checking that book out finally. I've refrenced ideas from it in responding to your threads more than anybody elses threads on here. I'm not sure why, but a lot of what I've read about you and your H seemed to revolve around issues in that book.

Don't think you blew it either. You're in a real hard spot in your sitch now and it's so new with him living somewhere else. I thought I completely blew it on more than one occasion when my W first moved out and I had nights like you had....where I would show her my emotions and be a mess. However, I was able to pick myself up and move on the next day as if nothing happened(or at least that's what I'd project to her). You just gotta make sure the good days are more frequent than the bad ones and you'll be fine. As long as you're not constantly emotional with him about it every time you talk, than an occasional show of emotions is ok and normal. It will be easier in time to make those bad nights scarce too believe it or not. I'm down to about one real bad day a month now, and even then I'm able to contain it without venting it to my W. So rest easy..you're still very much in this game. He's still uncertain and that's all you can ask for at this point, is uncertainty...which is better than being certain he wants out.