How to deal with OW

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If she is sleeping with her then what do I do?

I could expose the OW to the parents and principle at school and pretty much ruin her life and make her so ashamed she would probably quit her job. Is that really a good thing though? I would surely love to hurt this woman but my Wife would also never forgive me for that.

I don't know if I they are sleeping together or not. Last night she went over there at 10:30pm. She said the OW's sister was in the hospital having a baby and was having complication and the OW my Wife needed to come watch her son while she went to the hospital. My wife came home at 5:30am.

Part of me wants to believe they are sleeping together because it would make me feel less bad that she doesn't love me anymore but when I listen to my gut and not my jealousy I don't feel like they are.

So what is the DB thing to do? Ignore it and act fine that she goes over there? I know if I keep making a big deal it will just make her want to go even more to spite me. How do you control the emotions?

~Catherine