I think that you don't need to tell your H that you will move if the D comes. Right now I don't think would help your sitch. I agree with Steve that this is not past the point of no return.
The other day I went with my W to a friend of hers that is got remarried to the guy that she D over a year ago.
Your husband is obviously(sp) confused. You know this, so I know this is hard but instead of worring so much start doing things for yourself that if nothing else allow you to think about other things. I know easier said than done. Anyway my 2 cents.
