A, You are looking at life through clear eyeglasses, not the rose colored ones that your h is wearing. You are seeing reality for what it is and you know what? You are going to be just fine. You are grounded and very level headed and will continue on your own path and the world is waiting with open arms to help you along.
For me, it took about 6 years before my xh began to put his toe back into my pond. Even though throughout the years the phone calls and strange things happened around my home, he was not and still is not ready to face the consequences of his actions. He's one of those that will never return to the land of reality. He will continue to wear the rose colored glasses till the day he dies.
A, once you've decided what you want to do, move forward and know that no matter what happens...you are a survivor!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
