I think it's being kind. You are being considerate about her starting her new job and want to make sure she's not too overly stressed (and it IS stressful starting a new job!). I think it was very generous of you, and by not adding to her stress at a stressful time things will be better for everyone in the household. The following week she'll feel more calm about her job and any family changes will be a smoother transition.

I don't think that's weakness, it's logic! \:\)

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.