Pam, I agree, he is confused and he seems very miserable, not that happy to be living responsibility free and on his own.
Sage, thanks for the book reccomendation. I bought it years ago and never read it, I dug it out last night and started to read it and seem some salient points already.
Steve, I do think he is somewhat still undecidied. Fortunately, I have done things and been with the kids alone a lot, so this time isn't that difficult in terms of the practicalities of life. The weekend was lonely, but being off the eggshells had a bit of freedom to it.
I saw him at s4's school today, it was the first day. I took some pics, even with H and s4. He left a message on the machine asking me to send them to him. He sure is calling me a lot for someone he doesn't care about. I haven't responded yet, think I'll hold off a bit on that.