sandy, I wasn't aware that H was talking of "escapades" with women, and I don't think that is totally appropriate. I thought he was sharing his emotions with how he felt about the sitch, and I thought that was a good thing, as long as he wasn't bashing SC. So I guess I misunderstood.

On the cake-eating. I know there are a lot of people who talk about this, and I understand. Everyone needs to find their own line. All WAS will have this cake-eating phenomenon. It's just natural because they really are messed up and are afraid of losing both. With my H, I knew that God wanted me to be the best wife I could be. And I did. now it didn't mean that I was kissing butt, or being his slave, but I was being a good wife, and also being good to myself. So you have to find a balance.

hey SC, let those feelings of anger go, I know she did you wrong, but your kids know better, they are old enough, and they are smart enough. Don't let her control you, she is not worth it. You do not have to justify yourself to her, and she sure as heck doesn't deserve any of your time. She is the one who is pathetic, not you. I have pity on her, for she is weaving a life full of destruction for herself.

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."