Sage, you are right. I need to learn to word things so they aren't getting up his defenses, which is/was a theme in the m, he always felt like he was under attack. I never felt that way, don't know if that is from childhood or I do it inadvertently.
Day 1 as a separated person over. He called last night to check up on s6 and then called to say goodnight to kids. He told me he got the books and articles. I asked if that was okay, big pause and then he said yes.
I told him friends were coming to spend Saturday night with the kids and I, they didn't want me to be alone. He said, then I guess they know, I said, yeah V told them you were going through a tough time. Our friends children (15 & 17) are our children's god parents, I think he wanted it avoided having too many people know about this, but it is reality.
His next comment was I guess you aren't going to church then. I was planning to take the kids to Sunday School. I said probably not, then open my big mouth (why must I be so accomodating?), Did you want to attend a service together? He gets annoyed: I'm going whether you go or not, it just would have been nice to see the kids.
He also told me that our friend told him he really needs to be sleeping more, he has been getting very little, so he told me that is what he is going to concentrate on this next week. $1200 so he can get more sleep? Ugh. Getting frustrated. I think I do better when I keep my mouth shut. Listen and validate. I must make that my mantra during our conversations.
