Waiting for the Happily Ever After Part

[sage]

Jackie..gosh, you're handling a tough sitch so well!

Asked me if I needed him to take s4 tomorrow to help me out. I said, no, this is your time for yourself, you take this time. Well, he got defensive and said I care about the kids too. I can't win.

so...during my h's defensive mode I realized that everything sounded controlling to him...saying something like "you take the time" even though you mean it in the kindest possible way might sound that way to him....

next time, consider saying something like "hmmm...what do you think is best?" or "what would you like to do?"

May not completely avoid a confrontation but may help.

If he comes back with "I'm trying to help YOU out" say something direct "yes, then, I'd love it if you'd take ..." or "no, thanks."

Sage