Quote: He said, it would give us time to be together if we go.
If he said that, I think you should go. If he just was positive it was over between you, I don't think he waould have said that.
Quote: . I asked about a few dates in the past year where it felt like this was true, and he said, but this feeling should be everyday.
This is one of the things that frustrate me with the WAS. It is IMPOSSIBLE for that feeling to be everyday, once the honeymoon phase of a relationship is over. The trials and tribulations of everyday life guarantee it. I'm sure my STBXW feels exactly as your H does. They just don't get it.
But, the shame of it is, they enter into this journey looking for a relationship where it IS like that everyday. They will never find it. Isn't it enough to know that even if you only feel it occasionally, that to feel it means it must be there to begin with???
