First of all, I agree with T, and read it as positive..and I totally agree with this - "I actually had to double-check the end of the email to make sure it wasn't something you had written. The part highlighted in red sounded to me like something you might have said yourself to H if you got the same paperwork." - that was my reaction too!
I thought it was interesting that he was offering to meet you to discuss it, as he doesnt have to do that, you could sort it out by email or phone?? I agree, look hot for the meeting, if only for your pride!
Secondly.. I dont know about 50/50 money thing. You loved this guy enough to marry him, theres no way if I were in your shoes that I would take more than was morally mine, especially if his Dad gave him the money. I know you are M and legally, its your right, but you're still young, you werent M a lot of years and there arent any dependants, so under those conditions, IMHO, I would take only what I contributed to the house. I'm only saying this, as a different POV, to avoid the stress or an argument with him and I hope you dont mind me putting this alternative view across! But.. I would take the compassionate, moral view, not the legal one, despite the fact that he left the M for an OW. Just MHO! I'm too soft though hey.
You know legally, I am entitled to half my ex's house, we own it jointly and that currently equates to 50K equity to me.. but theres no way I would ask for a penny, as it was his Dads house (but I slaved my guts out for 5 months PM the renovations on it!!! So like, its not like I didnt earn it either! )
I thought his email was much warmer than previous ones and who knows hey, maybe all is not so rosey chez OW!??
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