Thanks Pam and Mockers. I was looking at the retrovaille stuff, might ask him about it, printed off some info.
Update (after only 8 hours, more communication than before)
H calls, he said my boss had called him. I told him I had emailed her and told her (also very close friend of family) and I was surprised he had told her about this in Feb. I had never said anything during this time. He said he needed someone to talk to. I told him she had asked if he had anyone and I said I didn't think many people, so she asked if I minded and she would call and offer a friendly ear. I think he is going to take her up on it and I think that will only help him.
He also told me that he thought about what I said about moving into the suite hotel. He is going to do that and we will tell the kids it is because he has so much work to do, this isn't outside the norm in our life. I told him I had only told 3 people about this and we agreed to not tell either set of parents what is going on (his guilt, but I don't want to make him coming home any harder, having to explain to so many people). So I have my small support system, but they are enough.
I mentioned to him I have some book suggestions that he could read to help him think. Anyone have any I can give him. He did say that would be good.
