I'm so sorry. I admire the way you handled it, though, and I'm glad you stepped off of the eggshells and really put your feelings out there.
My W did a lot of crying as she made the decision to leave, also. In her case, I've come to the conclusion that they were "poor, poor me, I have to go through this again" tears, and tears of guilt as well. I hope that isn't the case with your H.
Quote: They told me I was too nice in what money I wanted from him (only covering the mortgage) and that I am leaving him off too easy. I don't want to make him bitter, I want him to not feel like I'm his enemy.
Completely understandable. I had people "advising" me that I should charge my W for the labor I put into getting the house ready to sell, as she didn't make any offer to help, and also that I should go for more than half of the proceeds since I paid the mortgage by myslef for 14 months.
But, even after all of the pain and hurt she has caused me, I cannot, and will not, be an a$$hole.
Just don't let him have his way 100% - be fair, but make sure your are fair to yourself as well.
Quote: The he told me that I am still his best friend.
It always amazes me when they say this (my STBXW has never said it to me, btw, not since she left).
But it's as if they think they can throw away the part of us that they no longer want, but can pick and choose the part of us they wish to keep. Pardon my french, but f*ck that!!! (IMHO, of course).
Hang in there, Jackie. you are a good woman, and don't let the thought of being single scare you too bad (yesh, like I have a right to say THAT!!).
If a divorce is truly in your future, you'll have no problem finding a guy who you deserve.
