My worst fears confirmed! Wife having EA/PA...

[Vdad]

25,

She was definetley the first victim, further I have been very self-centered throughout our marriage. I never really new "how to connect" with her. Not saying I am an expert but I have a much better understanding of that now (with a long way to go).

This is what I know as of today:

1. She sent hime a Goodbye letter today AND deleted him off of her Myspace account. GOOD! She did it on her own I did not ask.

2. WE are staring to communicate again. Slow going but she seems to be awakining.

3. She is feeling remorse over the EA. Same thing I went through.

4. Space for her is a must so she can rediscover herself with out the pressure of our R. The separation as she says will either wake up a desire for an "us" or it won't. I want to give that to her out of love.

5.She is a GOOD woman. I statred all of this so I need to be patient in a way I have never been.

6. A separation will give me time to work on me. I have changed alot but there are miles to go. A lifetime to go.

25,

I have four children. My oldest is as SD15 who I have very little rights over and she is old enough to make her own decisions and is cleaving to Mom right now.

My Bio children are S12, S9, S7. So when I say my boys they are the ones who I have custodial planning to be concerned with. That being said I will continue to nurture my realtionship with SD as I have raised her from 1.5 years old.

Jeff