My worst fears confirmed! Wife having EA/PA...

[25yearsmlc]

PS okay, you said you could take some 2 x 4s...

what's up with the "what's done is done" when you refer to YOUR A, and you say your "affair was simple"


Really? Did your w 'get that" it was "SIMPLE"? Seriously read your posts about how YOU felt before the affair and the myspacing (PT where were you then?) and how low you felt but wouldn't let your w in, and etc

but you post here about your obsessing and snooping debates, when you are not even sure what actually happened with your w? Don't you see any double standards here? Is the reason you are so terrified she'll have an A, or will again, is b/c YOU did? Don't poo poo her pain and then magnify yours. Her A is actually a lot simpler for ME to understand now. Simpler than yours. Seriously.

is there any projection going on? All I'm saying is when I re-read your post wherein you supposedly don't want to downplay the regrets you feel or the pain you caused her....you then DO downplay the effect.... and you go back to you and your pain...


I'm still rooting for you but had to give you that feedback when I re-read your posts. Seriously think about how you are portraying your own A, which took forethought and planning and her crazy weekend took less FROM THE SOUNDS OF HER EMAIL AT LEAST but I don't want your A's to compete with each other.
(sigh) Just wish I had noted that more before and yet, even now, you are still able to move past the pain you caused her faster than you realize. Look at your wording again, and contrast how you describe your A, with what you worry your w has done and how it makes YOU feel.

"what's done is done"...hmmm, why can't she say that to you?
( j )