Jackie..I am so sorry for the pain you are feeling..
I know that most others feel that sep is the end of the end..but I just want to say that my h and I have been sep almost a year..I know all sitch are different..my h has never said those things to me that yours did..but it does not mean the end. We were on eggshells and h was a nervous wreck here...I tried dbing but the end result was he needed space and I have given it. I wish I could say things are going great and that it looks like we will make it, but I do see a much calmer h and myself..we have been able to relax and work on ourselves...I have gone on with life in hopes, of course that h will decide that our m is still something he wants...Please don't take this as me saying I think sep is great..of course I don't..but if one s sayd that is what they need..to fight it would be the end to the end.
Take care of you and your kids..let h have his journey, whatever it may be for now.
