Here is my morning 'anger' with D18. She was complaining about the dishes piled on the counter and the house being generally messy. I told her that she is quite old enough to make decisions to actually help around the house. And I am the one who does all the work to keep us housed and fed and she and her sister could take some responsibility.
After some more back and forth she suggested making a chore list and enforcing it. I agreed.
In the past I would internalized this and back off, thinking I was being a jerk.
You get it Frank. Keep doing that and your life will change.
