Have I ever said hit your girls, your wife, or yell at them, scream and throw things?
Of course not, nor would I ever do such things.
Here is my morning 'anger' with D18. She was complaining about the dishes piled on the counter and the house being generally messy. She doesn't lift a finger unless I TELL her to.
So, instead of me just thinking I'm a bad housekeeper I told her that she is quite capable of cleaning and I'm angry when she dumps it on me as if I'm supposed to do everything. She replies that she does clean when I ASK her to. But I don't ask her to so she doesn't do anything.
Basically, it's my fault. And it was making me angry. I told her that she is quite old enough to make decisions to actually help around the house. And I am the one who does all the work to keep us housed and fed and she and her sister could take some responsibility.
After some more back and forth she suggested making a chore list and enforcing it. I agreed.
In the past I would internalized this and back off, thinking I was being a jerk.
