Wow! Sorry to hijack, Cinco, but had to say something.
I've only lurked a bit in this forum and just stopped by Cinco's thread after he posted on soulm8's thread. I had no idea of the discussions going on here, but reading these last few pages is like an amazing revelation to me. Between S&A's post, NNMNG site, and Women's Infidelity site, I feel like the problems that led to the end of my marriage have been described in stark detail. I can now see how the DB actions I chose, like validating, only highlighted the worst of my nice guy tendencies. And her lack of sexual initiation or interest, followed by an A, underscores how long the problem had existed. She's now in relationship #2 - another nice guy - but I wonder for how long
Thanks everyone for your insight and experience. I may not have saved my marriage but I sure can be more intelligent about my next relationship.
