It seems to be working! Sometimes....

[sandycay]

You know BJ I think most of the S here love us excluding the real asses on here of course. I don't doubt my H love for me and I just don't if it's enough for him. Becauee, I see that it seems like his duty, like doing the right thing, and that would absolve him of his guilt. But that's not working for him. I don't know if it's the love a man should have for his wife in a normal way.... not a obligation or duty way. KWIM

I can never give him the first part of the relationship feeling again. I think that's what he is missing, the endorphine rush of it (that's what he said, not her) well you can't stay on the roller coaster forever, we'd all like to feel like that everyday but I am fine with what I have. Happy me, happy kids, but he's not so happy. It kinda drags you down after awhile after doing all this work. I guess it's just impatience on my part and I need to step back, stop R talk(again), stop temperature checking and be a little dim and hope for the best. That being, he will work it all out in his own mind and stay faithful.

It just seems like it should be so simple. OW turned out to be the w*ore I knew she was and he has lingering feelings from the emotional BS she fed him. It just hurts that isn't gone by now. But it is what it is.

How'd we get here anyway?

Can't we all just move to Eutopia and leave this all behind? But according to human nature as I know it now.... it would happen there too..LOL


Yes, I've responded and as always I validated and praised him for his efforts. It just gets hard to do it sometimes. Where's mine? Oh that sounded selfish. I start feeling like that when it's get to this point but I don't voice it because then I might have a MLC myself!